Community Groups for Wellbeing
We're a registered local charity for adults in the Ashdown Forest area. We organise weekly groups for wellbeing, improving mental health, reducing stress and connecting with others.
We are The Ashdown Hub, a local charity in Forest Row, East Grinstead and surrounding areas.
For more information please contact us
We organise activity groups for adults (18+) to support wellbeing and to reduce stress. In this way, we gently support and promote good health, both physical and mental.
Groups are low cost because we are a volunteer-run charity. Because of donations, all groups are currently FREE.
We get together in friendly groups, do an activity and support our wellbeing.
Most of us could do with making space in the week to focus on doing something enjoyable, connecting with others, spending time creatively or in nature.
People join our groups with all kinds of things going on in their lives and with all kinds of motivations. As a group, we have encouraged each other during good times, physical illness, stressful life events such as bereavement, mental illness, addiction. It is also fine to join a group to connect with and support others. Although being in a group with people who may be going through challenging times could sound heavy (and we do check in with you that this is right for you before you start), the groups are carefully held and can be very inspiring. We find everyone has something to offer other group members.
We include mental health professional volunteers in our groups so can offer short mindfulness and listening practices, to reduce stress levels as part of our group check ins.
If you feel you'd like to come, information about groups is here. Use the contact us section for more info and to book a space.
Some recent comments are: "It kept me going at a difficult time", "So peaceful to put the phone away and be outside for a change", "The group is the main thing I've been looking forward to", "I have benefitted hugely from the groups", "they have been a reliable oasis in various storms", "the groups have been an actual lifesaver during lockdown", "I feel so much better each week for coming and really notice when I miss a week", "just giving myself some space has really helped. I don't do this at all apart from the group", "I feel hopeful".
We are a registered charity (Charity Number 1192088).
Click here for more information about us.
How you can help us:
We are volunteer-run by a small, friendly team. We rely on donations to offer our services but never ask about money in the groups ( we ask quietly here in case you can help us :))
If you can make a donation, it makes the world of difference to our small charity and to our participants.
We use donations to pay for venue hire and expenses such as running our IT systems, costs for experts to come and teach a particular activity etc. Expert tutors often volunteer time or teach at massively reduced fees but even small costs build up. We absolutely depend on donations and warmly thank all who have supported us.
Please donate via Justgiving , make us your easyfundraising charity so each time you shop online with many big organisaions, funds are donated to us, without costing you anything. If you use Amazon, please nominate us as your AmazonSmile charity
If you'd like to fundraise for us, donate or volunteer for us, please let us know. contact us
Our registered charity number is 1192088 and we are The Ashdown Hub CIO.
We'd love your help. Many thanks!
All our groups are currently FREE for participants.
If you can't join us for a group, you might be interested in a supportive technique called Art Journalling, which you can do at home. Find out about this here
Tai Chi and Mindful movement. East Grinstead, Peredur Centre Monday evenings 6.30-8pm until Christmas. Free.A gentle friendly group practising Shibashi Qi Gong with Aryana and very gentle basic mindfulness practices mindfulness with Jo, and check in over tea.
There are resources from our tai chi group here
Thursday Words Group.
Forest Row Community Centre 10-11.30am 18th November weekly for 12 weeks (break for Xmas). An experienced story teller and health professionals team up to bring the group poems and stories, and together we participate in creative work with words in a gentle, mindful, encouraging environment.
Mindful Art Group at East Grinstead Museum. Tuesday evenings (6.30-8pm), until Christmas. FreeGardening For Wellbeing Group. Thursdays (1-3pm).Peredur Centre, East Grinstead RH19 4NF.
Beautiful garden of another local charity- grow veggies, feed the animals. We get together and see how things are going, spend time in nature and use this as an opportunity to be in the "here and now".
Please contact us for more info or to book a place.
You can also phone 07923930352 and leave a message for a call back.
Get in touch
Our phone number is 07923930352 (for info about a group or to book a space, please leave a message and we will call back)
Alternatively, please use the form below or email firstname.lastname@example.org to contact us - we'd love to hear from you and answer any questions.
For urgent mental health support, don't use this form or phone number, instead click here.
About Art Journalling
Art Journalling- a "conversation with yourself"
We ran a Zoom Art Journalling group through lock-down. People told us this was a really eye-opening and helpful technique. The Zoom group has now finished as we start our in-person groups, but please feel free to look through this information in case you want to try it out yourself.
This is a safe technique but as always, if you are under the care of a health professional, let them know you plan to try this out and check it's right for you.
What is visual journalling?
There's lots of info here and some of our volunteers have made a video discussing the technique. You can see this on YouTube
Well-known psychologist and arts therapist Cathy Malchiodi has written a helpful article and we have her permission to share this with you click here
What is it?
Basically you take time to check in with your body and your feelings each day and make an image (it doesn't have to be a great work of art). Then you look at and think about what you have made.
Does this sound light-weight? Don't dismiss it! Simple things can be powerful and this is one of our favourite techniques for getting to know your own mind, so we'd love you to try it out.
It's an evidence-based, rewarding practice to promote good mental health
Do I need to be artistic?
No! Not at all. This isn't an art class and you don't need to be able to draw anything recognisable! You don't even need to show anyone else what you've made. There are options to take photos, make models or do scrapbooking if you hate drawing.
What do I need?
A pen and some scrap paper is enough but you could use coloured pens, paints, old catalogues or you can use your phone. A plain drawing pad is really useful if you have one but not essential.
Click here for basic instructions. Wishing you happy journalling and good mental health!
More about us
We offer simple activity-based groups to support mental wellbeing.
We aren't a crisis service and don't provide treatment. Click here if you need urgent help.
Our groups are very simple. We meet once a week with the same small group of people do an activity and check in.
Although we work simply, we have thought hard about making the groups as helpful as possible. We have a number of very experienced clinicians (registered counsellors, GPs, psychotherapists) working with us and supporting our work. Facilitators make sure groups are safe, respectful and welcoming for all and we have a code of conduct for participating.
We are a member of MSVA, 3VA, The FSI , NVCO and SCC.
We have gained a Charities Excellence Framework Quality Mark for our ongoing work on our charity setup and governance.
Participants have lots of opportunity to input into how each group runs- we will ask your opinion about what you want to do. If you don't like the activities we are currently offering, check back in with us as we'll try to offer a diverse set of activities.
We also look for simple ideas to contribute to the wider community because connecting in this way can be helpful for wellbeing.
It costs the charity at least £60 for one person to attend for a 12-week group (venue, admin/IT, insurance, materials, activity tuition etc)
If you can make a donation of any amount towards this cost or to pay for someone else to attend in future (quietly, using the button below) we would be grateful. We will not ask for money in the groups and donations are not needed to join.
If people wish to keep attending a group again after their first 12 week course, we may review whether we can offer this. We sometimes ask for a small donation towards costs, where this is possible, to allow us to continue welcoming new participants.
Please donate here
© The Ashdown Hub, 2020. All rights reserved.
Urgent/ additional support for mental health
Ashdown Hub offers weekly support groups but isn’t an emergency, treatment or crisis service.
If you’re looking at this page and concerned for your health or in crisis, we warmly encourage you to seek support.
In an emergency, please call 999 or attend your nearest A&E
For urgent, but not emergency situations, contact your GP (or community mental health team if you have already been seen by them) and/or
Call 111 (website nhs.uk). They can direct you to local crisis and mental health services
Sussex Mental Healthline:
0300 5000 101
Offering crisis care for people in Sussex, in urgent need of help with their mental health.
Preventing Suicide in Sussex
Website providing information about help for people in Sussex who are feeling suicidal or people concerned for others
Mind provides advice, resources and support to empower people experiencing mental health problems
0300 123 3393 (9am-6pm Mon-Friday except bank holidays)
Free emotional support 24 hours a day, 365 days a year.
116 123 (Freephone 24 hours a day)Email: email@example.com
Pathfinder West Sussex
An alliance of organisations working together to support mental health
Provides support services to people with mental health needs, those with a personality disorder and individuals at risk of homelessness
SilverlineFor people over 55 Confidential, free helpline open 24 hours a day, seven days a week, 365 days of the year.
Also offers telephone befriending
0800 4 70 80 90www.thesilverline.org.uk
For people affected by mental illness, families, friends and carers
0300 304 7000 (4:30pm – 10:30pm every evening)
During Covid: 07984 967 708. Leave a message with your first name and number and you will be called back.
CALM (Campaign Against Living Miserably)
A movement against suicide including a helpline
0800 58 58 58 (5pm-midnight daily)
The Money Advice Service
0800 138 7777 (8am-6pm weekdays)
Please find our privacy document attached below.
Organisation: The Ashdown Hub CIO, e-mail: firstname.lastname@example.org.
Volunteers and employees from The Ashdown Hub who process your personal data will be called “we” in this document.
We are committed to protecting your personal information.
This privacy notice relates to our use of your personal information.
Personal data (any information identifiably about you) may be collected from you in person, by letter, e-mail or over the telephone.
We collect and process personal and sensitive data (for example data about your mental health) in order to contact you to inform you about our groups, to ensure safety and suitability of our service for you and other group members and to keep a clinical record of your attendances at a therapeutic support group.
We will ensure that data is accurate, relevant and limited to what is necessary to run our group.
What information we collect
We will collect and process information when you contact us to express an interest in our organisation.
At the point of initial enquiry, we will respond by email to ask you for personal data, in order to arrange a phone call to tell you more about our service.
We will ask for, and record:
Details of enquiryNameTelephone numbere-mail address
Our email system is Protonmail, which is a secure, encrypted email system. There is information available from proton mail about their security and encryption https://protonmail.com/security-details
If you are interested in joining a group, a clinician will arrange a time for a brief, confidential phone call to seek more information. This includes details of your past and current health, background, including risk assessment, and your past experience in groups. This is to ensure safety to participate.
After this phone call and each group session, we record a health record entry.
We store your data from your assessment and group sessions on a password-protected clinical records system (smilenotes.co.uk). Here is what Smilenotes says about the safety of data in their record system “All transmitted data is encrypted during transfer using SSL technology. Our data storage facilities (based in the UK and Amsterdam) maintain extremely high standards of security, and include safeguards such as biometric readers for access, 24/7/365 on site security and security cameras.
All patient/client data (including uploads) is encrypted at rest using AES. All of your client/patient data stays within the EU and strictly meets the requirements set out by the ICO.” source https://www.smilenotes.co.uk/help/faq.html last accessed 24/10/2020
We have a specific “contacting you” consent form, asking for your permission to contact you by phone, text and email and preferences about this. You can update and change preferences at any time. This contact form also asks for an optional emergency contact number and first name in the unlikely event you are incapacitated during a group session. Please seek your contact’s permission before providing us with their number.
How we use this information
We use the information you give us:
To provide a legal record of your attendance at a therapeutic group and any support or advice we provide.To ensure continuity of care during your time with our service, for example transferring between groups.For accounts and grant-seeking purposes.To contact you about your ongoing group.To contact you, if you consent to this, when new groups or events with our organisation become available that may be of benefit to you.At your request and with your consent, to liaise with health or social professionals involved in your careTo seek emergency help if we believe you or others are at risk of harmFor quality feedback and audit purposes.
Our lawful basis for processing your personal and sensitive data, is legitimate need in order to provide information about groups, contractual need in order to offer support group services and legal requirement to keep a health record of participation in therapeutic activity support groups.
We do not pass on your information for commercial purposes.
We take all reasonable steps to ensure that our information is kept up to date and rectified if necessary. It is your responsibility to inform us if any personal information changes, in order that our records are accurate.
Links to External Websites
Our website does not record your data unless you send us a message via "contact us”.
On our website, there are links to external websites for mental health information or support. We also have links to JustGiving and Amazon Smile. These are separate organisations. Please see these websites' and organisations' individual privacy and personal handling information before clicking on these links.
How long do we keep personal information?
We keep your personal data for no longer than reasonably necessary.
We are legally required to retain health records for 8 years after your last clinical contact.
We may retain electronic records indefinitely for use if you return for another episode of care within 8 years and for analytical purposes.
You are under no statutory or contractual requirement or obligation to provide us with your personal or sensitive data but failure to do so may mean you are not able to participate in group activities.
Sharing your personal data.
We do not normally share your data or information with any person outside our organisation.
If you ask us to contact professionals involved in your care (for example your doctor, mental health professional or other health or care professional), we may share data with your consent.
This information would normally be passed on in the form of a written letter which is given to you – if this is the case, the letter becomes your responsibility and the protection of its contents is your responsibility.
If the information is passed electronically by email, it will be with your consent, by secure, encrypted email. We will take all reasonable precautions to transmit the information securely.
We have a professional duty to share your personal information if this necessary to prevent serious harm to your health or safety, or that of another person.
If we believe this is necessary, we will discuss this with you as soon as we can. If there is an immediate risk to health or safety and we cannot discuss this with you, we will share personal data to prevent harm (for example with the emergency services or adult safeguarding team) and will discuss this with you as soon as possible.
How do we protect your information?
We are committed to ensuring that your information is secure. In order to prevent unauthorised access or disclosure, we have put in place suitable physical, electronic and managerial procedures to safeguard and secure the information we collect.
Controlling your personal informationYou are entitled to request a copy of the personal information we hold about you and to have any discrepancies rectified if appropriate. If you believe that any information we are holding on you is incorrect or incomplete, please write to or email us and we will promptly correct any information where legally possible.
You are entitled to request that we transfer your data direct to another controller and to request that your personal data is erased where it is no longer necessary to retain it.We will not sell, distribute or lease your personal information to third parties unless we have your permission or are required by law to do so.
We confirm that we do not transfer data abroad or use any form of automated decision making in our business.
All changes will be notified on our website.
Any questions or complaints regarding this privacy notice should be addressed to:
Joanna Murphy, Trustee, The Ashdown Hub
We want to share this technique with you that we have used with other people for some time. It was part of a Zoom group over lock down.
Clinical volunteers Jeanne-Claire and Jo had a chat on zoom about this practice around this time and we keep this recording below in case it's helpful
We don’t know you in person yet, and so don’t know your background. If you are reading along and having a go, and something doesn’t feel comfortable or suitable for you, don’t do it. If you are under professional care, please discuss your plans to try this technique and its suitability for you at the moment
If you need to change something in these instructions to make journalling more comfortable to do, this is fine. If you are worried about your mental health, please click here
1. Finding the right time, being ready
Give yourself the gift of some time each day for this supportive practice.
We know this can be easier said than done. 30 minutes to an hour is ideal, but 10 minutes would do. It can help to aim for the same time each day.
Try to find a quiet period where you won’t be disturbed, at a time you won’t forget. Make sure you are comfortable, and aren’t hungry or cold. You can even set an alarm to remind you of your practice time.
Gather together some materials before you start (these could be pen and paper but if you have the following then they might be helpful and fun to use: coloured pencils, pens, old catalogues, scissors and glue, modelling clay or materials, phone for photos)
2. Check in with yourself, with curiosity and kindness.
Here are some basic instructions we find helpful in checking in with the body, but if they don’t suit you, feel free to adapt them.
Sitting upright in a supportive chair with your feet comfortably on the floor
Check in with your body: ask how is my body feeling today?
Really trying to notice what is there, with a friendly curiosity, without trying to change anything. Can you feel your feet today? Perhaps the soles of your feet are resting on the floor. How does this feel? Are you able to feel your toes? All of them? Perhaps you aren’t. That’s OK. Perhaps there are intense feelings, or buzzing, itching, hot or cold. That’s all OK. Scan your body. Are there areas of muscle tension, perhaps in the hips, in the tummy area, in the shoulders or jaw. It’s OK if there are. Just noticing and not trying to change what you find. Which parts of your body are you most aware of? Are the feelings intense? Pleasant? Are they there all the time or do they come and go? Being curious about the areas of the body you aren’t noticing at the moment. How is your tummy feeling today? Is there churning, or rumbling? How about the breath? Can you feel the rhythmical movement of the chest wall and tummy? Perhaps you notice the steady flow of breath in and out past the nostrils?
Ask yourself “How am I feeling today?”.
If I had to find some words for my mood, what would they be? Are the feelings intense? Are they a mixture of feelings, partly feeling one thing and partly something else? Really try to look hard and be curious without criticising what you notice or trying to change it.
Are you perhaps feeling nothing at all? It is fine to feel whatever you are feeling, whether this is pleasant or unpleasant, strong or even not there at all, and also to struggle to put words to what you are feeling. Just noticing with kindly attention
You might like to glance down a list of feeling words to help with this (you can find these online easily by googling “list of feelings”. The Hoffman Institute has a good list, for example and it might help to print it out)
3. Try drawing or making an image of how you feel.
This sounds hard, but there are lots of techniques to help and it’s important just to have a go- you can’t get it wrong.
Here are three simple options:
Scribble what you feel in your body:
Take a pen and scribble on the paper. If you feel churning in your tummy, maybe draw a swirl in the middle of the page, and maybe you have a heavy head so you draw lots of lines at the top of the page
“I made the image below on a day I didn’t know what I felt, and bits of me felt different, so I just tried to draw what I felt as best I could”
Choose one colour
Have a few different coloured pencils and chose just one or two colours each day to make any marks or drawing that comes to mind after checking in with body and feelings.
“I drew the picture above on a difficult day, when I couldn’t feel anything, but as I wondered about feeling nothing, and tried to think exactly how I could tell I was feeling nothing, I became aware of my feet and warmth over my head. I felt better after making it”
Cutting out or using photos:
Tear or cut out images from a paper, or chose a photo from your album that most matches how you feel. It doesn’t matter what it is- so long as it appeals to you and seems to match how you feel in some way.
“The picture below was something I cut out of a catalogue and stuck in my journal. It was an image of Christmas lights. I felt it was hopeful, sparkly, sociable, comfortable”
“When I drew the picture above, I was feeling scratchy and irritable, and also hurried. I poked the pencil hard on the paper. It was quite aggressive. I felt better after doing this”
“I took the photo above on my phone when I was on a walk, feeling a bit numb, flat and like I was “up against it”. It was cold and grey, and the wind had blown this hawthorn over, but it was still growing. It seemed to connect with how I was feeling”
4. Reflection time
Once you’ve done your drawing/ photo or other image, check back in with yourself.
How did it feel while you were making the image? If you couldn’t make an image and are staring at a blank page, that’s OK. How does this feel? If you forget to make an image one day, that’s OK too- try getting back to it the next day
How do you feel now? Has anything changed?
Are you pleased with the image? If it could talk to you, what might it say?
If you like, make a few notes about this (but you don’t have to)
Looking at the record over time:
Keep an eye on your journal over time. Sometimes an image that didn’t seem important at the time feels important looking back.
If you are making loose images, try to keep them in a folder or box, or take photos. Sometimes looking at the image the next day can be interesting, or taking a time to look back over a week. Are you seeing any themes? Do you feel the same each day or do your feelings change?
If things are difficult, do you need any help? We aren't a treatment or emergency service but click here for urgent help
It can be really helpful to join a group and discuss your journalling experience with others. A group won’t be critical of anything you have noticed and your experience might help others.
There is evidence that this kind of mindfulness of your feelings, and the experience of connecting to them in this creative way, can be very helpful to mental wellbeing.
There is scientific evidence for this practice, and we’re happy to share some of what we’ve enjoyed reading, and learning about this area (below):
Visual journalling is the kind of practice it is difficult to study and is based on years of clinical experience, for example many art psychotherapists will use it. It is hard to evaluate the benefits of being really in touch with how you are feeling and put figures to this, but here are some studies you might be interested in.
Mercer, A., Warson, E. and Zhao, J., 2010. Visual journaling: An intervention to influence stress, anxiety and affect levels in medical students. The Arts in Psychotherapy, 37(2), pp.143-148.
This study followed some medical students who kept a visual journal. They reported their mood improved and they were less anxious
Martin, L., Oepen, R., Bauer, K., Nottensteiner, A., Mergheim, K., Gruber, H. and Koch, S.C., 2018. Creative arts interventions for stress management and prevention—a systematic review. Behavioral Sciences, 8(2), p.28.
This was research looking at a number of different artistic practices for stress management and reported that arts can be very helpful in stress reduction
Kaimal, G., Ray, K. and Muniz, J., 2016. Reduction of cortisol levels and participants' responses following art making. Art therapy, 33(2), pp.74-80.
This study looked at stress hormones before and after art making and found they went down
The practice we are doing before doing our journalling is a type of mindfulness. There are lots and lots of studies showing the benefit of mindfulness for mental health. Here are a couple of recent studies:
Reangsing, C., Rittiwong, T. and Schneider, J.K., 2020. Effects of mindfulness meditation interventions on depression in older adults: A meta-analysis. Aging & Mental Health, pp.1-10.
This showed mindfulness is helpful in depression for older people
Blanck, P., Perleth, S., Heidenreich, T., Kröger, P., Ditzen, B., Bents, H. and Mander, J., 2018. Effects of mindfulness exercises as stand-alone intervention on symptoms of anxiety and depression: Systematic review and meta-analysis. Behaviour Research and Therapy, 102, pp.25-35.
This showed that mindfulness has a positive impact on depression and anxiety
These books might be useful for background reading
Heaversedge, J. and Halliwell, E., 2012. The Mindful Manifesto. Hay House, Inc.
Leavy, P. ed., 2017. Handbook of arts-based research. Guilford Publications.
Cameron, J.ed 2016. The Artists’s Way: A Course in Discovering and Recovering Your Creative Self
Please let us know how you get on with your visual journalling, and if you need any help. We wish you well!
“I found these 6 toy ducks. Every day for a while, I spent some time being mindful of my feelings and then moved the ducks around and took a photo. Sometimes the “ducks were in a row”, and sometimes they weren’t. I enjoyed this practice and it was really quick. I kept the ducks on the table and did this just after breakfast most days for a few weeks”
Code of conduct for participants at The Ashdown Hub
We want our group to be safe and friendly.
These are rules we have agreed together for all participants, volunteers and staff.
Please ask if you want any more details or if you have suggestions
Alcohol or illegal drugs must never be brought to the group.
Anyone noticeably under the influence of alcohol or illegal drugs will be politely asked to leave that session.
Everyone is equally welcome. No form of discrimination will be tolerated. This includes discrimination on the basis of race, gender, colour or religion.
We are a kind group. Bullying or intimidating behaviour of any form is not OK. We give each other our kindly attention and silence phones.
We are a safe group. Violence or threat of violence (physical or verbal) is not OK.
We are a confidential group. Any personal information shared by participants must remain strictly confidential. We don’t take photos of anyone in the group, or of their work, without permission. For online groups, we ensure we access the group in a private space.
There are a few exceptions. All participants must agree that Ashdown Hub staff work as a team and can share information with each other.
Participants understand staff must break confidentiality and disclose information to a third party, if staff believe a participant may be at significant risk of harm to themselves or others. Examples of a third party include the police, health or social services.
We are a caring group. If a participant is worried about the health or safety of another participant, they agree to encourage that participant to seek professional help and/ or speak to a member of staff or volunteer. Participants will not support others alone or keep concerns secret from the group.
Whilst participants may form friendships outside the group, they will keep discussion of issues raised in the group to the group. Group members will not start intimate relationships with each other whilst attending the group.
Under no circumstances must any participant ask to borrow money from any other participant
Swearing is not OK.
This is a safe, considerate space for all. Sexual behaviour, whether physical or verbal, is not OK in the groups.
Here are some resources from our group:
A nice video from colleagues in Torquay here:
Here are some poems we have read in the groups:
The Moment by Marie Howe
Oh, the coming-out-of-nowhere moment
maybe half a moment
the rush of traffic stops.
The whir of I should be, I should be, I should be
slows to silence,
the white cotton curtains hanging still
The Owl Cries at night by Freya Manfred
The owl cries at night,
and I imagine her wide gold eyes
and feathered ears tuned
to the trembling woods and waters,
seeing and hearing what
I will never see or hear:
a red fox with one bloody paw,
a hunchbacked rabbit running,
sand grains grating on the shore,
a brown leaf crackling
under a brown mouse foot.
With so much to learn,
I could stop writing forever
and still live well.
The Ink Dark Moon by Izumi Shikibu
Although the wind
blows terribly here,
the moonlight also leaks
between the roof planks
of this ruined house
Enough by David Whyte
Enough. These few words are enough
If not these words, this breath.
If not this breath, this sitting here.
This opening to the life
we have refused again and again
It felt love by Haziz
How did the rose
Ever open its heart
And give to this world
all its beauty?
It felt the encouragement of light
Against its being.
You do not need to be good.
You do not have to walk on your knees
for a hundred miles through the desert repenting.
You only have to let the soft animal of your body
love what it loves.
Tell me about despair, yours, and I will tell you mine.
Meanwhile the world goes on.
Meanwhile the sun and the clear pebbles of the rain
are moving across the landscapes,
over the prairies and the deep trees,
the mountains and the rivers.
Meanwhile the wild geese, high in the clean blue air,
are heading home again.
Whoever you are, no matter how lonely,
the world offers itself to your imagination,
calls to you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting-
over and over announcing your place
in the family of things.
The Patience of Ordinary Things. Pat Schneider
It is a kind of love, is it not?
How the cup holds the tea,
How the chair stands sturdy and foursquare,
How the floor receives the bottoms of shoes,
Or toes. How soles of feet know
Where they're supposed to be.
I've been thinking about the patience of ordinary things, how clothes
Wait respectfully in closets
And soap dries quietly in the dish,
And towels drink the wet
From the skin of the back.
And the lovely repetition of stairs. And what is more generous than a window?
A Gift. Denise Levertov
Just when you seem to yourself
nothing but a flimsy web
of questions you are given
the questions of others to hold
in the emptiness of your hands,
songbird eggs that can still hatch
if you keep them warm,
butterflies opening and closing themselves
in your cupped palms, trusting you not to injure
their scintillant fur, their dust.
You are given the questions of others
as if they were answers
to all you ask. Yes, perhaps
this gift is your answer.
Kindness. Naomi Shihab Nye
Before you know what kindness really is
You must lose things, feel the future dissolve
in a moment
like salt in a weakened broth.
What you held in your hand,
what you counted and carefully saved,
all this must go so you know
how desolate the landscape can be
between the regions of kindness.
How you ride and ride
thinking the bus will never stop,
the passengers eating maize and chicken
will stare out the window forever.
Before you learn the tender gravity of kindness,
you must travel where the
Indian in a white poncho lies dead
by the side of the road.
You must see how this could be you, how he
too was someone who journeyed through the night
with plans and the simple breath
that kept him alive.
Before you know kindness as the deepest thing inside,
you must know sorrow
as the other deepest thing.
You must wake up with sorrow
You must speak to it till your voice
catches the thread of all sorrows
and you see the size of the cloth.
Then it is only kindness
that makes sense anymore,
only kindness that ties your shoes
and sends you out into the day
to mail letters and purchase bread,
only kindness that raises its head
from the crowd of the world to say
it is I you have been looking for,
and then goes with you every where
like a shadow or a friend.
Joy in Life Thich Nhat Hanh
You must be completely awake in the present
to enjoy the tea.
Only in the awareness of the present,
can your hands feel the pleasant warmth of the cup.
Only in the present, can you savour the aroma,
taste the sweetness, appreciate the delicacy.
If you are ruminating about the past,
or worrying about the future,
you will completely miss the experience
of enjoying the cup of tea.
You will look down at the cup, and the tea will be gone.
Life is like that.
If you are not fully present,
you will look around and it will be gone.
You will have missed the feel, the aroma,
the delicacy and beauty of life.
It will seem to be speeding past you.
The past is finished.
Learn from it and let it go.
The future is not even here yet.
Plan for it,
but do not waste your time worrying about it.
Worrying is worthless.
When you stop ruminating about
what has already happened,
when you stop worrying about
then you will be in the present moment.
Then you will begin to experience joy in life.
The Bright Field R.S. Thomas
I have seen the sun break through
to illuminate a small field
for a while, and gone my way
and forgotten it. But that was the
pearl of great price, the one field that had
treasure in it. I realise now
that I must give all that I have
to possess it. Life is not hurrying
on to a receding future, nor hankering after
an imagined past. It is the turning
aside like Moses to the miracle
of the lit bush, to a brightness
that seemed as transitory as your youth
once, but is the eternity that awaits you.